What is your Attachment Style? From early on in life, we develop an attachment to our primary caregivers that tends to remain constant. This attachment style has a profound effect not only on our emotional development, but also upon the health of our relationships. Find out what your style is and how it affects your relationships by taking this quiz.When completing this questionnaire, please focus on one significant relationship – ideally a current or past partner as the focus here is on adult relationships. This does not necessarily need to be a romantic relationship but must be the individual with whom you feel the most connection. Who is your primary “go to” person if you’re sick, in trouble, want to celebrate, call with news, etc.The attachment style quiz has 30 short multiple choice questions. Examine the following statements and indicate to what degree they are true of you. In order to receive the most accurate results, please answer each question as honestly as possible.Fill out your first name and email address to get a copy of your quiz results emailed to you. First Name (optional) Email Address (optional) Subscribe me to your Relationship Resource Newsletter!1. People are essentially good at heart.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree2. I chronically second-guess myself and sometimes wish I had said something differently.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree3. Over-focusing on others, I tend to lose myself in relationships.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree4. If my partner and I hit a glitch, it is relatively easy for me to apologize, brainstorm a win-win solution, or repair the misattunement or disharmony.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree5. I usually prefer relationships with things or animals instead of people.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree6. When I give more than I get, I often resent this and harbor a grudge. It is often difficult to receive love from my partner when they express it.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree7. It is difficult for me to be alone. If alone, I feel stressed, abandoned, hurt, and/or angry.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree8. I often find eye contact uncomfortable and particularly difficult to maintain.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree9. When my partner arrives home or approaches me, I feel inexplicably stressed –especially when he or she wants to connect.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree10. At the same time as I feel a deep wish to be close to my partner, I also have a paralyzing fear of losing the relationship.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree11. I insist on self-reliance; I have difficulty reaching out when I need help, and I do many of life’s tasks or my hobbies, alone.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree12. I am always yearning for something or someone that I feel I cannot have and rarely feeling satisfied.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree13. I am comfortable being affectionate with my partner.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree14. I find it easy to flow between being close and connected with my partner to being on my own.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree15. I actively protect my partner from others and from harm and attempt to maintain safety in our relationship.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree16. I can keep secrets, protect my partner’s privacy, and respect boundaries.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree17. I look at my partner with kindness and caring and look forward to our time together.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree18. I often tend to “merge” or lose myself in my partner and feel what they feel, or want what they want.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree19. I want to be close with my partner but feel angry at my partner at the same time. After anxiously awaiting my partner's arrival, I end up picking fights.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree20. It is easier for me to think things through than to express myself emotionally.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree21. When I lose a relationship, at first I might experience separation elation and then become depressed.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree22. It is difficult for me to say NO or to set realistic boundaries.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree23. Sometimes I prefer casual sex instead of a committed relationship.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree24. I feel relaxed with my partner most of the time.Strongly agreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree25. Sometimes, I over-function, over-adapt, over-accommodate others, or over-apologize for things I didn’t do, in an attempt to stabilize connection.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree26. I feel like my partner is always there but would often prefer to have my own space unless I invite the connection.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree27. I sometimes feel superior in not needing others and wish others were more self-sufficient.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree28. I attempt to discover and meet the needs of my partner whenever possible and I feel comfortable expressing my own needs.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree29. I find myself minimizing the importance of close relationships in my life.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagree30. It is a priority to keep agreements with my partner.Strongly AgreeMostly AgreeSometimes AgreeDisagreeTime is Up!