What Is Your Love Language?

The following quiz is based on Gary Chapman's book, The Five Love Languages. You will discover your primary and secondary love languages.

Sometimes it can seem like the person we love most in this world is also our greatest frustration... like we're playing on different teams or actually trying to hurt each other. In actual fact, however, we're longing for closeness and love, but just can't seem to pull things together. Instead of believing that we're on different "sides", let's just learn to celebrate our differences. Let's stop trying to make our partner more like us, and instead seek to enjoy and appreciate those differences and quirky things that we fell in love with in the first place.

This Love Languages Quiz does just that. It helps you understand the ways you most understand receiving love. This is valuable info for your partner. Why not both do this test and then share results with one another!

The quiz contains 35 multiple choice questions. As you read each question, imagine your partner or if you haven't found that special someone yet, then just imagine you have.

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1. I really feel loved when you tell me that you think I look attractive/handsome.
2. I think that receiving gifts is a very important part of a loving relationship.
3. I feel very special when you surprise me with flowers.
4. I feel loved when we have great conversations together.
5. Helping me do things makes me feel really loved.
6. I feel loved when you turn your mobile phone off and we can just enjoy each other.
7. I feel loved when you buy me little gifts.
8. Little things you do for me mean more to me than things you say.
9. I feel so much closer when we touch more often.
10. It’s great to go out to a concert, for a meal or a walk… just where we can enjoy each other.
11. I really love it when you compliment me.
12. Just calling me on the phone just to tell me you’re thinking of me is really important to me.
13. I feel so loved by the thoughtful things you do for me.
14. I love it when you make me breakfast.
15. I feel so loved when you write me little love notes.
16. I love to receive hugs from you.
17. I feel so special when you buy me things you know I’d like.
18. I love it when you tell me how much you appreciate the everyday things I do.
19. Spending time together just enjoying each other is an important way in which I feel loved.
20. I feel so loved when you give me your undivided attention.
21. It makes me so happy when the cards I receive from you are filled with thoughtful and loving words that you have written yourself.
22. I really enjoy it when you touch me on the arm affectionately.
23. I really feel loved when you cook me a special romantic dinner.
24. I really appreciate and feel loved when you do little things that you know I don’t enjoy doing.
25. Sitting close together with you makes me feel more loved than if we sat apart.
26. I really love the little things you do around the house to help me.
27. Holding hands together is really important to me.
28. I feel so loved when you spontaneously give me kisses.
29. It doesn’t so much matter what we do, as long as we do it together.
30. I really love when we can just talk and laugh together.
31. Hugs are such simple things, but they mean so much to me in my love relationship.
32. I feel so loved when you say little things to encourage me.
33. Receiving presents are among my favorite things.
34. The gifts you give me are very special to me.
35. Receiving tangible gifts from you make me feel loved.