John Gottman, renowned relationship expert and researcher, discovered four communication styles, that when left unresolved can lead to a relationship breakdown and has 93 percent accuracy in predicting divorce. These four styles, also known as the four horsemen, are criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. It is important to understand each type and be able to… Read More
Many years ago, in the Clinton era, I was asked to do an interview on whether Hillary and Bill would make it through Bill’s affair. Responding psychologically rather than politically, my answer was to say, “If couples didn’t make it through affairs, the divorce rate would be even higher than it is now.” Working through… Read More
If you live with kids, you have witnessed the wave of emotion knock them over and send them to a place that is out of control. The Anger Wheel of Choice is a tool that provides kids with skills for self regulation. Check out this video by Joyful Courage. Here is a blank copy of… Read More
Here are some helpful tips for you if you love a highly sensitive person. Because loving highly sensitive people is not an average experience. HSP’s need to be loved differently than others. There are many things you have to take into consideration when in a relationship with someone of this nature.
It’s widely believed that men are pretty much always in the mood for sex. Men’s desire to get it on isn’t seen as having much—if anything—to do with their relationships or life circumstances. Unlike women, it’s assumed that guys are just constantly horny. However, a new study published in the Journal of Sex Research suggests that this stereotype about… Read More
Mental illness can totally suck and make you feel completely alone. That feeling can be made worse by the lack of public discussion around the topic. Because there’s still such a stigma around talking about mental illnesses, like anxiety and depression, many people keep their suffering a secret. In fact, the National Institute of Mental Illness shows 20%… Read More