Recommended Book List

Self Growth

  • The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown
  • Ten Days to Self Esteem by David Burns, M.D.
  • How to Be an Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration by David Richo
  • Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day by Anne Katherine
  • Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life by Dr. Henry St. Cloud and Dr. John Townsend
  • Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain
  • The Assertiveness Guide for Women: How to Communicate Your Needs, Set Healthy Boundaries, and Transform Your Relationships by Julie de Azevedo Hanks
  • Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown
  • The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz
  • Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown
  • When Anger Hurts: Quieting the Storm Within by Matthew McKay
  • The Empath’s Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People by Judith Orloff
  • The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships by Harriet Lerner
  • True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart by Tara Brach

Communication/ Conflict Resolution

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  • Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships by Marshall B. Rosenberg
  • The Surprising Purpose of Anger: Beyond Anger Management: Finding the Gift by Marshall B. Rosenberg PhD
  • The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate by Harriet Lerner
  • Why Won’t You Apologize?: Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts by Harriet Lerner
  • The Relationship Cure: A 5 Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by John Gottman
  • How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
  • Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus: Practical Guide for Improving Communication by John Gray
  • Effective Communication: How to Make Your Conversations More Meaningful, Speak Confidently and Stay in Control of Conversations at Work and in Relationships by Aaron Paul

Dating

  • The Introvert’s Guide to Dating by Jordan Gray
  • Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
  • Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy by Ken Page
  • The Man’s Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want by John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman Ph.D.
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Intimacy/Sexuality

  • Guide to Getting It On by Paul Joannides
  • Passionista: The Empowered Woman’s Guide to Pleasuring a Man by Ian Kerner
  • 101 Nights of Great Sex: Secret Sealed Seductions for Fun-Loving Couples Paperback by Laura Corn
  • A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship by Laurie B. Mintz
  • She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Ian Kerner
  • Sexual Intimacy for Women: A Guide for Same-Sex Couples by Glenda Corwin
  • Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski Ph.D.
  • Hot Monogamy: Essential Steps to More Passionate, Intimate Lovemaking by Dr. Patricia Love and Jo Robinson
  • Love, Sex and Staying Warm: Creating a Vital Relationship by Neil Rosenthal
  • Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
  • Sexual Reflections: A Workbook for Designing and Celebrating Your Sexual Health Plan by Alexandra Katehakis
  • Mirror of Intimacy: Daily Reflections on Emotional and Erotic Intelligence by Alexandra Katehakis and Tom Bliss
  • Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure by Sheri Winston
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Couples

  • The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary D Chapman
  • We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
  • Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
  • How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving by David Richo and Kathlyn Hendricks
  • Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs
  • His Needs, Her Needs by Willard F. Harley
  • Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine
  • Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix Ph.D.
  • Together Forever: Gay and Lesbian Marriage by Eric Marcus
  • Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationships at Midlife and Beyond by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks
  • Being Me, Loving You: A Practical Guide to Extraordinary Relationships by Marshall Rosenberg
  • Men Are Like Waffles, Women Are Like Spaghetti by Pam Farrel and Bill Farrel
  • Wired for Love:  How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
  • 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
  • The Man’s Guide to Women: Scientifically Proven Secrets from the Love Lab About What Women Really Want by John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman Ph.D.
  • The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate by Harriet Lerner
  • When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships by David Richo
  • Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum

Infidelity

  • Healing from Infidelity: The Divorce Busting Guide to Rebuilding Your Marriage After an Affair by Michele Weiner-Davis
  • After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms Spring
  • The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity by Esther Perel
  • Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass
  • How to Help Your Spouse Heal From Your Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful by Linda J. MacDonald

Teens

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  • The Teen Girl’s Survival Guide: Ten Tips for Making Friends, Avoiding Drama, and Coping with Social Stress by Lucie Hemmen PhD
  • The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey
  • Express Yourself: A Teen Girl’s Guide to Speaking Up and Being Who You Are by Emily Roberts MA, LPC
  • Quiet Power: The Secret Strengths of Introverted Kids by Susan Cain
  • The Manual to Manhood: How to Cook the Perfect Steak, Change a Tire, Impress a Girl & 97 Other Skills You Need to Survive
    by Jonathan Catherman
  • Being a Teen: Everything Teen Girls & Boys Should Know About Relationships, Sex, Love, Health, Identity & More by Jane Fonda
  • S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by Heather Corinna
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Parenting

  • Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
  • The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children by Dr. Shefali Tsabary
  • How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
  • No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
  • The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson
  • Positive Discipline by Jane Nelsen EdD
  • The Developing Mind by Dan Siegel
  • Strong Mothers, Strong Sons by Meg Meeker
  • Screens and Teens: Connecting with Our Kids in a Wireless World by Kathy Koch PhD
  • Parenting a Teen Who Has Intense Emotions by Pat Harvey and Britt Rathbone
  • Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions Into Adulthood by Lisa Damour

Puberty/ Sexual Health/ Body Safety

Children

  • Amazing You! by Dr. Gail Saltz
  • What’s the BIG Secret? Talking About Sex with Girls and Boys by Laurie Krasny Brown, Ed.D., and Marc Brown
  • It’s So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families (The Family Library)
  • It’s Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends (The Family Library)
  • The Care and Keeping of YOU: The Body Book for Younger Girls by Valorie Schaefer
  • The Boy’s Body Book: Everything You Need to Know for Growing up YOU! by Kelli Dunham and illustrated by Steve Bjorkman
  • The Body Book for Boys: Everything You Need to Know about GROWING UP by Jonathan Mar and Grace Norwich
  • The What’s Happening to My Body Book for Boys by by Lynda Madaras
  • I Said No! A Kid-to-kid Guide to Keeping Private Parts Private by Kimberly King
  • The Right Touch by Sandy Kleven
  • Your Body Belongs to You by Cornelia Maude Spelman
  • Some Secrets Should Never Be Kept by Jayneen Sanders
  • Let’s Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent and Respect by by Jayneen Sanders
  • No Means No! by Jayneen Sanders

Tweens/Teens

  • It’s Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, and Sexual Health by Robie H. Harris and Michael Emberley
  • The Care and Keeping of YOU 2: The Body Book for Older Girls by Cara Natterson
  • The Period Book: Everything You Don’t Want to Ask (but Need to Know!), by Karen Gravelle & Jennifer Gravelle and illustrated by Debbie Palen
  • What’s Going On Down There? Answers to questions boys find hard to ask by Karen Gravelle with Nick and Chava Castro
  • S.E.X.: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties by Heather Corinna
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Social/ Emotional Development

Children

  • The Invisible String by Patrice Karst
  • When Sophie Gets Angry–Really, Really Angry by Molly Bang
  • The Way I Feel by Janan Cain
  • David Gets In Trouble by David Shannon
  • My Mouth Is a Volcano! by Julia Cook
  • Giraffes Can’t Dance by Giles Andreae
  • We’re All Wonders by R. J. Palacio
  • The Way I Act by Steve Metzger
  • Today I Feel Silly by Jamie Lee Curtis
  • I Am So Brave by Steven Krensky
  • Fair is Fair by Sonny Varela
  • Scaredy Squirrel Makes a Friend by Melanie Watt
  • Sheila Rae, the Brave by Kevin Henkes
  • Once I Was Very Very Scared by Chandra Ghosh Ippen
  • The Boy Who Built a Wall Around Himself – by Ali Redford
  • A Family Is a Family Is a Family – by Sara O’Leary

Diversity

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Children

  • All are Welcome by Alexandra Penfold
  • Everyone Matters by Pat Thomas
  • The Colors of Us by Karen Katz
  • Whoever You Are by Mem Fox
  • The Name Jar by Yangsook Choi
  • And Tango Makes Three by Justin Richardson and Peter Parnell
  • Uncle What-Is-It is Coming To Visit!! by Michael Willhoite
  • My Two Moms and Me by Michael Joosten
  • Julián Is a Mermaid by Jessica Love
  • It’s Okay to Be Different by Todd Parr
  • Mommy’s Khimar by Jamilah Thompkins-Bigelow
  • Alma and How She Got her Name by Juana Martinez-Neal
  • A Gift from Abuela by Celia Ruiz
  • Under My Hijab by Kena Khan
  • This is How We Do It: One Day in the Lives of Seven Kids Around the World by Matt Lamothe
  • Worm Loves Worm by J.J. Austrian
  • Why Does Izzy Cover Her Ears? Dealing with Sensory Overload by Jennifer Veenendall

Tweens/ Teens

  • Counting by 7s by Holly Goldberg Sloan
  • The Reason I Jump: The Inner Voice of a Thirteen-Year-Old Boy with Autism by Naoki Higashida
  • The First Rule of Punk by Celia C. Pérez
  • My Life as an Ice Cream Sandwich by Ibi Zoboi
  • Harbor Me by Jacqueline Woodson
  • The House That Lou Built by Mae Respicio
  • Beyond Magenta by Susan Kuklin
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Step Parenting/ Blended Families 

Children

  • Step One, Step Two, Step Three and Four by Maria Ashworth
  • Do You Sing Twinkle? A Story About Remarriage and New Family by Sandra Levins
  • Annie and Snowball and the Wedding Day by Cynthia Rylant

Tweens/Teens

  • The Thing About Leftovers by C.C. Payne
  • The Sleepover by Jen Malone
  • Amelia’s Family Ties by Marissa Moss
  • The Steps by Rachel Cohn

Adults

  • Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family by Susan Wisdom and Jennifer Green
  • Wisdom on Stepparenting: How to Succeed Where Others Fail by Diana Weiss-Wisdom, PhD
  • Stepfamilies: Love, Marriage, and Parenting in the First Decade by James Bray and John Kelly
  • Step Parenting: 50 One-Minute Dos and Don’ts for Stepdads & Stepmoms by Randall Hicks
  • The Smart Stepfamily: Seven Steps to a Healthy Family by Ron Deal
  • Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way They Do by Wednesday Martin, PhD
  • 101 Tips for the Smart Stepmom by Laura Petherbridge

Foster/Adoption

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Children

  • Speranza’s Sweater by Marcy Pusey
  • Maybe Days: A Book for Children in Foster Care by Jennifer Wilgocki
  • Just Right Family by Silvia Lopez
  • Three Little Words by Ashley Rhodes-Courter
  • Murphy’s Three Homes by Jan Levinson Gilman
  • I Wished for You: An Adoption Story by Marianne R. Richmond
  • Families Change by Julie Nelson
  • We Chose You: A Book About Adoption, Family, and Forever Love by Tony Dungy and Lauren Dungy
  • Some Babies Are Adopted by Cindy Walker
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Trauma/ Abuse 

Children/ Teens

  • A Terrible Thing Happened: A Story for Children Who Have Witnessed Violence or Trauma by Margaret M. Holmes
  • Healing Days: A Guide for Kids Who Have Experienced Trauma by Susan Farber Straus
  • Whimsy’s Heavy Things by Julie Kraulis
  • Please Tell: A Child’s Story About Sexual Abuse by Jessie
  • The Day My Daddy Lost His Temper: Empowering Kids That Have Witnessed Domestic Violence by Dr. Carol Santana McCleary, PsyD
  • A Place for Starr: A Story of Hope for Children Experiencing Family Violence by Howard Schor
  • How Long Does It Hurt?: A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends, and Their Families by Cynthia L. Mather

Adults

  • Trauma Healing by Peter Levine
  • In an Unspoken Voice by Peter Levine
  • Allies in Healing by Laura Davis
  • Trust After Trauma by Aphrodite Matsakis
  • Highly Sensitive People by Elaine Aaron PhD
  • Codependent No More by Melody Beattie
  • The Body Keeps Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
  • It Wasn’t Your Fault: Freeing Yourself from the Shame of Childhood Abuse with the Power of Self-Compassion by Beverly Engel
  • The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships by Patrick Carnes
  • When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chodron
  • Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
  • It’s My Life Now: Starting Over After An Abusive Relationship or Domestic Violence by Meg Kennedy Dugan and Roger R. Hock
  • Healing the Trauma of Domestic Violence: A Workbook for Women by Mari McCaig and Edward S. Kubany
  • When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships by David Richo
  • Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners by Kenneth M. Adams, PhD
  • The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse by Ellen Bass
  • Healing the Incest Wound: Adult Survivors in Therapy by Christine A. Courtois
  • Invisible Girls: The Truth about Sexual Abuse by Patti Feuereisen

Parents

  • Trauma Through a Child’s Eyes: Awakening the Ordinary Miracle of Healing; Infancy Through Adolescence by Peter A. Levine
  • Trauma Proofing Your Kids by Peter Levine and Maggie Kline
  • But I Love Him: Protecting Your Teen Daughter from Controlling, Abusive Dating Relationships by Jill Murra
  • Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners by Kenneth M. Adams, PhD
  • Invisible Girls: The Truth about Sexual Abuse by Patti Feuereisen
  • How Long Does It Hurt?: A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends, and Their Families by Cynthia L. Mather

Addiction

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  • Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change by Jeffrey Foote
  • Addiction: The High-Low Trap by Irving A., M.D. Cohen

For Loved Ones of People with Addiction Issues

Children

  • Easter Ann Peters’ Operation Cool by Jody Lamb
  • Wishes and Worries: Coping with a Parent Who Drinks Too Much Alcohol by Centre For Addiction And Mental Health
  • I Can Be Me: A Helping Book for Children of Alcoholic Parents by Ed.D Dianne S. O’Connor
  • An Elephant In the Living Room The Children’s Book by Jill M. Hastings and Marion H. Typpo

Adults

  • In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction by Gabor Maté, MD.
  • Loving Someone in Recovery: The Answers You Need When Your Partner Is Recovering from Addiction by Beverly Berg, MFT, PhD
  • Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie
  • Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives by Pia Mellody
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Grief/ Loss

Children

  • My Yellow Balloon by Tiffany Papageorge
  • You Are the Best Medicine by Julie Aigner Clark
  • Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss by Pat Schwiebert and Chuck DeKlyen
  • When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death by Laura Krasny Brown
  • Stones for Grandpa by Renee Londner
  • The Memory Book About Grief by Joanna Rowland

Adults

  • The Orphaned Adult: Understanding And Coping With Grief And Change After The Death Of Our Parents Paperback by Alexander Levy
  • Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss by Hope Edelman
  • Healing a Spouse’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Husband or Wife Dies by Alan D. Wolfelt PhD
  • Letters from Motherless Daughters: Words of Courage, Grief, and Healing by Hope Edelman
  • Understanding Your Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart by Alan D. Wolfelt and John DeBerry
  • Motherless Mothers: How Mother Loss Shapes the Parents We Become by Hope Edelman
  • Death of a Parent by Debra Umberson
  • When Parents Die by Edward Myers
  • Ambiguous Loss: Learning to Live with Unresolved Grief by Pauline Boss
  • Loving Someone Who Has Dementia: How to Find Hope while Coping with Stress and Grief by Pauline Boss
  • Helping Children Cope With the Death of a Parent by Paddy Greenwall Lewis and Jessica G. Lippman
  • Healing Your Grieving Heart for Teens: 100 Practical Ideas by Alan D. Wolfelt PhD

Breakup/ Ending of Relationship

  • It’s Called a Breakup Cause It’s Broken by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrend
  • When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chodron
  • The Wisdom of a Broken Heart: How to Turn the Pain of a Breakup Into Healing, Insight, and New Love by Susan Piver
  • Getting Past Your Break-Up: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing that Ever Happened to You by Susan J. Elliott, JD, MSEd
  • How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life by Howard Bronson and Mike Riley
  • The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
  • Love Warrior: A Memoir Kindle Edition by Glennon Doyle
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Divorce

     Adults

  • Getting Past Your Breakup: How to Turn a Devastating Loss into the Best Thing That Ever Happened to You by Susan J. Elliott
  • Divorce Recovery: Proven Strategies for Divorce Recovery and Dealing with Divorce: The Fastest Way To Deal With Divorce And Set Up A Bright Future By Sarah Joy
  • Broken Open: How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow by Elizabeth Lesser
  • Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends by Bruce Fisher

     Children/ Teens

  • It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear: A Read-Together Book for Parents and Young Children During Divorce by Vicki Lansky
  • Two Homes  by Claire Masurel
  • Where am I Sleeping Tonight? (A Story of Divorce) by Carol Gordon Ekster
  • You’re Never Alone…A Child of Divorce Searches for Happiness by Philip Nork
  • Mum and Dad Glue by Kes Gray
  • Dinosaurs Divorce by Laurene Krasny Brown
  • The Divorce Helpbook for Teens by Cynthia MacGregor

    Parents

  • Cooperative Parenting and Divorce: Shielding Your Child From Conflict by Susan Blyth Boyan
  • Mindful Co-parenting: A Child-Friendly Path through Divorce by Jeremy S. Gaies Psy.D
  • The Co-Parents’ Handbook: Raising Well-Adjusted, Resilient, and Resourceful Kids in a Two-Home Family from Little Ones to Young Adults by Karen Bonnell
  • Putting Children First: Proven Parenting Strategies for Helping Children Thrive Through Divorce by JoAnne Pedro-Carroll