Couples Counseling

Rebuild Trust & Reconnect: Couples Counseling in Austin, Texas

Does this sound like your relationship?

Is it hard to trust your partner?

Would you like to feel more connection and joy in your relationship?

Do you feel like you and your partner are living together like roommates- distant and lonely?

Are you or your partner in recovery from substance use?

Do you find yourselves arguing about finances, household duties, or sex?

Are you interested in gaining communication & conflict resolution skills?

You know the questions. We’ll help you find the answers you’ve been searching for.

In today’s fast paced world with so many demands on our time and energy there are very few relationships that steer the course of life without hitting some turbulence. Sometimes the rifts are minor and begin over a trivial issue. But it is these minor fault-lines when left to chance that develop into major cracks and form the start of a gaping divide that can eventually turn couples against each other.

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Effective Couples Counseling in Austin, Texas. We can help you and your partner reconnect and rebuild trust.

Our couples counseling is aimed at bringing the good vibe back into your relationship through the mediation of a professional relationship counselor. We can help you and your partner increase respect, affection, and closeness in your relationship. We can help you enhance your communication skills keeping conflict discussions calm and connected- creating more understanding between you and your partner.

Compassionate Couples Counseling Tailored to Your Needs

We understand what it’s like to feel distant and alone in a relationship. No matter the cause, we are here to support you and help you get to the root of what you are struggling with in your relationship. We can help you get unstuck from patterns that are repeating over and over- driving you and your partner to become silent, roommates with each other or argue frequently. We tailor our couples counseling services to the issues you are facing and help you reconnect and feel more secure in your relationship.

Using Research-based and Proven Approaches in Couples Counseling

Our primary approaches to couples therapy include Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT), and Gottman Method Couples Therapy. We also draw from other modalities including Internal Family Systems, Narrative Therapy, and Imago Relationship Therapy.

All three approaches to couples therapy combine the following three areas of cutting-edge research:

  • The first is neuroscience, the study of the human brain. Understanding how the brain works provides a physiological basis for understanding how people act and react within relationships. In a nutshell, some areas of your brain are wired to reduce threat and danger and seek security, while others are geared to establish mutuality and loving connection.

  • The second is attachment theory, which explains the biological need to bond with others. Experiences in early relationships create a blueprint that informs the sense of safety and security you bring to adult relationships. Insecurities that have been carried through life can wreak havoc for a couple if these issues are not resolved.

  • The third area is the biology of human arousal—meaning the moment-to-moment ability to manage one’s energy, alertness, and readiness to engage.

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Tools to help you and your partner feel safe, secure, and with each other.

The goal of these approaches is to help couples move more toward a secure functioning relationship. No wonder our couple’s therapy is popular among couples in Austin, Texas.

To learn more about this concept click on the following video:

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What is Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy or EFT?

Learn more about how Emotionally Focused Therapy can help your relationship.

Supporting Couples in Recovery from Addiction

You or your partner may have gone to treatment. You are recovering from the powerful hold substance use had over your life and are looking for additional support for your relationship. You want to learn new patterns- healthier ways of being in the world. You’ve tried and it’s hard! No one showed you how to do life like this.

We can help you become more aware of the old dysfunctional behaviors and develop new, healthier coping skills. We can help you gain more skills in communication, limit-setting, forgiveness, and building a new future together. Recovery from addiction involves a lifestyle change- building new habits to support the life that you want free from the substances’ powerful grip.

At Relationships Matter Austin, we provide empathetic counseling to help you understand how to better support each other on this recovery journey and to come through the challenging times stronger.

Healing from Infidelity

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If you just found out about an affair, you may be lost in disbelief. Everything you once thought you knew is now false, and your entire relationship is being examined under a microscope. Emotions can feel like a rollercoaster; from angry to depressed, from hopeless to hopeful. This traumatic event needs quick action and couples counseling after an affair may be what you need to recover.

We can help you work through the intense feelings you have and start to make sense of what happened. We can help you sort through the questions and needs you have of your partner about the affair in a safe and supportive environment.

At Relationships Matter Austin, we can help you restore the emotional safety and trust in your relationship.

Couples Counseling- Frequently Asked Questions

Couples counseling: Is it really effective?

Statistics have shown that it is. And the majority of positive feedback we get from our clients prove it is. Because it is a relationship and character building exercise, many people report becoming better listeners and lovers. During therapy you’ll learn new skills that will help you communicate, resolve conflict, and better accommodate one another with the guidance of a professional therapist.

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I don’t think anything can be done to save our relationship. How will couples counseling help us?

First of all, one of the most important principles of couples therapy is creating an atmosphere of trust and neutrality where you and your partner can bare it all. This is a necessary part in resolving any sort of conflict. It is at this point your therapist will provide a tailor-made framework that is aimed at counteracting the problems. Couples therapy requires that both partners be active in the process. That said, in some cases partners may have their minds made up that the relationship is over and divorce becomes inevitable. We can also help you get through that process without drama which is very important to you and all those involved- especially your loved ones.

Couples counseling will help you address a wide range of issues

Whether it is poor communication, a non-existent sex life, financial disagreement, problems due to other family members, issues with parenting, or boundary issues, our Couples therapy will help you learn how to live a respectful and loving way.

We’ll help you learn how to deal with these pressures without sacrificing your relationship. During sessions, we’ll help you understand that we are humans and inherently have flaws and the tendency to hurt each other can’t be avoided at times. And for this reason we help couples acknowledge hurtful behaviors, help them express remorse, and teach them how to effectively communicate their apologies.

Do you work with LGBTQ+ couples?

Yes, we do! While we understand that most same sex couples can also have similar challenges in the typical areas of communication, sex, money, in-laws, parenting, use of free time, and tidiness/chores, you may also need support in navigating the following issues as well-

  • Lack of family support for the couple
  • Lack of cultural and social support for the couple
  • Difficulties of coming out as a couple
  • Additional pressure about determining whether children fit into the relationship

What if my partner refuses to buy into the idea of couples counseling?   

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It is true that counseling is more effective when both parties involved attend sessions. However if your partner refuses to come along with you, don’t give up. We can work with you alone and help you identify and modify behaviors that may be unhelpful to the relationship from your end. Most often, we observe that after your partner observes these positive changes, they become interested. 

Would you like to communicate better with your partner?

Over the years we’ve discovered that failure in communication is one of the major reasons relationships fail. With better communication, chance is it is possible to mend bridges, but without it, the relationship is more likely to end in a downward spiral.

Our couples’ sessions provide the all needed avenue to communicate. It is at this point couples can air their deep rooted problems and concerns. It will help you put things into better perspective and with the help of an unbiased non-judgmental third party, it becomes easy to discover that issues that have been overwhelming and discouraging are manageable with more relationship tools.

We don’t have time. How long does couples therapy last?

Our sessions are designed to address specific issues. With a few sessions it is possible to identify the problems and the strategies you have developed to address it. Depending on the individuals involved, the issues identified, couples counseling is not a lengthy or lifelong process. However it is not uncommon for couples to want to continue sessions in order to reinforce the new skills they have acquired.

Affordable couples counseling in Austin, Texas

We offer a very flexible and affordably priced couples counseling service in Austin, Texas. At the end of the day, you’ll discover it is value worth paying for because it will save you the stress, time, and resources involved in dealing with a difficult relationship.

Emerge from the worries of a troubled relationship

Chances are it is not too late to save your marriage or relationship. Bring the joy back into your life again with professional help. We guarantee full confidentiality and you’ll be in the company of a trained specialist who has supported many couples.

“Couples who make relationships work well adopt the motto “If you’re hurting baby, the world stops and I listen. I’m with you”. -Gottman Institute

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