Wondering if premarital counseling is right for you?
Premarital Counseling, should you or shouldn’t you? There are so many things to consider once the big decision to get hitched has been made. A very couple-centered relationship can get derailed by the wedding planning train. Once planning is full steam ahead, wedding stress often ends up taking center stage. Before you know it, date nights get exchanged for Pinterest marathons and “To Do” lists. However, adding premarital counseling to that “To Do” list now will stack the odds in your favor.
Premarital counseling “is a type of therapy that helps couples prepare for marriage.” It helps ensure that you and your partner end up having a great marriage.
At Relationships Matter Austin, our premarital counseling will help you increase the chance of satisfaction and success in the early stages of marriage. According to research, couples who participate in premarital counseling are better able to resolve problems using effective communication styles, and on average, report higher levels of relationship quality. This is particularly important to help curtail the high rate of divorce especially in this early stage. Evidence has led many states, including Texas, to offer generous discounts on marriage licenses.
- Up to $60 off your marriage license fee
- Waiving of the 72-hour waiting period
- Discounts apply for a minimum of 8 hours of completed premarital counseling
- Certificates are good for up to one year
Premarital counseling- the idea is to reduce divorce rates by building healthy relationships. Bonus: A scheduled sanctuary from the planning chaos and time to reflect on how you want your marriage to be after the wedding.
Non-religious premarital guidance is increasingly popular
Further, research has shown that religious couples are more likely to seek premarital counseling probably because pastors often require it as a prerequisite step leading to the marriage ceremony. Therefore, premarital counseling often gets linked to religion. Fine for some, however, clergy-based counseling may be unappealing to others. Such as non-religious or same-sex couples. Know that there are other options such as a licensed therapist like me!
Your relationship will be better for it
The most common benefits that I’ve observed are improved communication, problem solving skills, and an increased sharing of wedding responsibilities.
Couples that have completed premarital counseling with me say that premarital counseling was worth the investment. Because it helped them set aside time to focus on issues that they would normally avoid. Think finances, family, and sex – the trifecta of marriage issues! Additionally, they’ve scheduled time to be together without phones or “To Do” lists.
- Led by a clinician trained professionally in couples therapy.
- Counseling can be extended into traditional couples counseling.
- You build a relationship with a therapist that can be reconnected with in the future.
- Spirituality discussions are not based on a particular religious doctrine offering an alternative for mixed faith couples, couples that do not belong to a religious organization, and same-sex couples.
- With some premarital counseling couples, I use the Prepare/ Enrich program. For more information on the program: prepare-enrich.com
Premarital counseling fees in Austin- what does it cost?
We offer a flexible pricing system that takes into consideration the duration and other factors. At the end of the session you pay for service rendered. Considering the cost involved in the divorce process, premarital counseling is a profitable investment no matter the amount you’ll be asked to pay.
Sometimes goals may involve changing patterns that were in the partners long before the relationship began. These situations can take longer to resolve. However, the average course of successful marriage counseling with us takes 8-10 sessions. We offer both 50 minute and 80 minute sessions.
I am worried. Is it about finding faults?
Contrary to what most people think, premarital relationship counseling is not about finding faults. It is more about identifying strengths and finding solutions to problematic issues that may derail the marriage beforehand. It gives you a safe space to discuss and agree together how you’d like to handle your finances, division of household duties, sex and physical affection, family and in-laws, whether you want to have kids, or how to blend kids form a previous relationship into this new one. You may discover you each have values, needs, and fears that you weren’t previously aware of. Now is the time to talk about how you feel about these issues so you both can have a plan you agree on from the beginning of your marriage.
Often we repeat the same patterns we learned in our previous relationships until we have an awareness of the pattern and why we reacted to our partner the way we did. We can help you identify the pattern that you and your current partner are engaged in and give you tools to deepen intimacy and compassion.
Take a step to a gratifying marriage
Ready to say “I do”? Congrats! We’ll be glad to ensure your love story ends in a happily ever marriage- get in touch and we’ll be glad to help.
“Devote yourself to your partner’s sense of safety and security and not simply to your idea about what that should be. What may make you feel safe and secure may not be what your partner requires from you. Your job is to know what matters to your partner and how to make him or her feel safe and secure.” ― Stan Tatkin
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