by Carlene Lehmann, M.A., LMFT
We all want to feel seen, heard, accepted, and appreciated
These are core human needs we all have. When we are experiencing depression or anxiety we can feel disconnected from our core self and others. Our mind can start to tell us things like “I’m not important”, “No one cares about me”, and “I’m all alone in this struggle”. We forget the joys and connection we once felt within ourselves and with friends and family. It can feel like a dark and lonely time in which we can’t escape.
If you are feeling this way, there are ways to get help. It can be helpful to see a doctor or therapist to assess your level of functioning and determine the next steps to take. Often we feel like isolating when feeling these intense emotions, but this is the time we need to reach out the most. You are not alone and there are supportive professionals who are trained to help. Sometimes we are experiencing deep sadness from the loss of a loved one, relationship, or job.
Times of transition can be difficult
Seeking support helps us explore what we are feeling and consider ways to support our bodies, mind, and spirit. You are important and deserve to have a fulfilling life. We all need someone who can understand and listen to our deep struggle. Sometimes friends and family can fill this role and sometimes it is helpful to have a neutral third party such as a therapist.
Go slow and take small steps
During times of intense change it is important to go slow and take small steps. Our nervous system needs time to adapt to the sudden changes we are experiencing. It helps to be gentle with ourselves and know that this experience won’t last forever. Life is full of many changes that we have to navigate. It is possible to learn new skills which can help you navigate it with more ease and flow.
Carlene Lehmann, M.A., LMFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist at Relationships Matter Austin in Austin, Texas. Carlene is ready to listen, encourage, and help you navigate to the challenges you are dealing with. To schedule your appointment with Carlene, you can reach her at (512) 994-0432 or request an appointment with her on the Relationships Matter Austin Scheduling Page.